How to Avoid Fear When Coming to the End of Your Life

Sunset over the beach
I’m adrift in a sea of feelings and emotions. The last couple of years have given rise to a changing of the guard so to speak. My mother, many of her lifelong friends and acquaintances have passed on to the other side. The passing of leaders such as George H.W. Bush and his wife Barbara, brought me to tears at their passing as we laid witness to their lives unfolding before us, and I’m a Democrat! Lives well lived are so inspirational. Family values, integrity, service to our neighbors and country are attributes we should all embrace. Seeing such unwavering commitment and sacrifice to our country reinforces the need for all of us to “do better” during our brief time here on earth.

What awaits us on the other side, no one knows for sure but from my own anecdotal experience and my years as a healthcare provider, I do believe that something wonderful lies ahead. The sudden transformative peace that I’ve often seen among the dying, is commonplace. Extreme restlessness, agitation, and confusion suddenly evaporates almost as fast as it appears and is replaced by a sudden peace, calm and zen-like state. Even for those who may experience some degree of discomfort as each breath becomes labored and more shallow tends to make peace with the coming of the end.

Although I have absolutely no scientific proof as to what I’ve experienced, what I can say is that on several occasions, I’ve witnessed those facing the end of their physical life appear to call out to their dearly departed as if they were in the very room we were standing in.

This has given me a great deal of comfort when I think about my own mortality.

What I have decided, as I continue to try to make sense of this thing called life, is that no matter how much money or possessions we have, what truly matters are the random acts of kindness we bestow upon each other without any regard for recompense, acknowledgment or reward. Paying it forward through acts of service or kindness is reward onto itself. All of us should be a shining example of the blessings we should and could be to one another. Because of this belief, I no longer fear the end of my life for I believe we will be reunited with our loved ones, friends and yes, even our beloved pets.

How do you feel about the end of life? Are you afraid? Do you feel that it’s important to “give back”? Please share your thoughts in the comment section below, I’d love to hear from you.

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